Why is it that some people can calmly and methodically solve problems, while you are extremely anxious and easily make mistakes? Because you have a strong fear of conflict, and your only hope regarding this conflict is to get through it quickly, to escape it quickly. So when you are anxious, you are not focusing on the issue; instead, you are trapped in a state of fear, thinking, 'It's all over.' So why are we so afraid? There are often two reasons behind this fear of conflict. First, your desire for control over the world is stronger than others'. What may seem like a small loss of control to others feels huge to you, and you are very afraid, so you want to escape. This often stems from your childhood, where your environment did not allow for any loss of control. If your family had even a slight problem, your parents would become very unstable. Or if you made a minor mistake, their reactions were exaggerated. This leads you to be much more sensitive to instability than others, putting you in a state of extreme anxiety and panic. The second point is that your level of self-trust is very low. Those who can resolve issues calmly believe in their ability to do so, so they can take their time. Your thought process is more like, 'It’s all over, this problem is too big, and I feel like I’m going to break apart; it seems like a huge disaster is coming.' You have very little trust in your ability to handle this problem, which often stems from a history of others not trusting you. Even when you do well, the feedback you receive is often not good enough, still negative. So when you engage in something, you are more worried than trusting yourself. To summarize, your anxiety reflects a lack of self-acceptance and a lack of acceptance of this uncontrollable world. So what should you do in such moments? One of the most important things to do is to train yourself to stay in the conflict. Spend some time in that emotion; think about what will really happen. This process is about clearing the fog to see the real world, but you skip it every time because you act immediately. So, prepare yourself for the next time something goes wrong or you feel anxious. First, tell yourself to stop for a moment, just stop for one minute, or two minutes. Then you will find that after just one or two minutes, the childhood stress response will have diminished. At that point, look again with your eyes and feel with your heart what kind of problem it really is. That is when you will be more efficient.